Comments on MandyLand: STUFF

Mandy, ignore the ignorant. Those who judge do so...

2009-08-29T23:04:46.728-04:00

Mandy, ignore the ignorant.

Those who judge do so from a perilous perch.

They judge from their own lives, not from a perspective view of yours.

You're gonna be a great Mom to a very lucky child.

Not a single naysayer can ever take that away from you, Rob, or the baby, capiche?

Mike

Anonymous. I have never said poor me, nor have I e...

2009-08-28T18:58:51.977-04:00

Anonymous. I have never said poor me, nor have I expected anyone's pitty. This post was about my experience and how it has shaped my life. I don't under any circumstances think I will be a perfect mom, I doubt anyone is. I do hope that I can teach my son to listen to what people have to stay and not make assumptions as you have done here.

In the meantime, I think you might need a hobby.. maybe you should start your own blog as opposed to getting all bent out of shape about other people's thoughts.

And you will make mistakes just like your mom . G...

2009-08-28T17:06:50.567-04:00

And you will make mistakes just like your mom . Get over it and quit being a poor me pity pat.

Anonymous #1: I have pictures on my walls and book...

2009-08-28T15:30:03.562-04:00

Anonymous #1: I have pictures on my walls and books on my shelves. There's a difference, my home is minimalistic, not empty. I will never "fill my home" with anything, because I don't NEED to fill the space around me.

Anonymous#2: You don't know me, you don't know my mom, and you don't know any of the other issues at play. Hoarding is not the only issue that determines whether or not I talk to my mom. Hoarding by itself is easy, I wouldn't refuse to talk to someone strictly based on that- I just will not go into her home.

And you do not know whether or not I was physically abused; I never stated that one way or another.

Nor did I say she kept a roof over my head for ALL of my childhood, nor did I say I did not go hungry.

Don't make assumptions.

I never said she wouldn't ever see her grandchild, I said he will not be able to visit her in her house and she will not stay the night in mine. There's a lot of open space outside of those restrictions.

Again, you're making assumptions.

Also, I disagree with your statement that I can't "go forward without that." I can do pretty much anything I want and I will do whatever I believe is in the best interest of my child and the best interest of my sanity.

There is something else I would like for you to kn...

2009-08-28T15:12:25.806-04:00

There is something else I would like for you to know. There is no excuse to not see your mom. NONE!!. She is who she is and you should respect that! You don't have to love her or Hell, even like her but she could have been alot worst. She put a roof over your head and made sure you had food and that is so much more than a lot kids have it. You were not beaten to a bloody pulp and no broken bones that I am aware of. She needs to see her grand child and you need to make peace with that. You can't go forward without doing that.

I think your mom was a very unhappy person and tha...

2009-08-28T14:13:09.138-04:00

I think your mom was a very unhappy person and that's all I'm going to say about her. Nobody chooses to live in that kind of life unless they are really depressed. But in saying that, there is nothing wrong in decorating your home and having a collection of some sort. Dust is a minor thing unless it amounts to piles of dirt. My mom had a salt and pepper shacker collection and if and when she dies , I will cherish it. Not think it is some burden to tend with. You can go extreme either way of this , A picture on the wall of a home, or a collection in a cabinet, gives a home warmth and a love of life, and it it is something to be proud of. Otherwise you might as well be living in a hotel room, and that stark, clean nothing is not good. Children need to know you are proud of them and sometimes this comes in putting there art on the wall or on the frig. and little boys collect baseball cards or hot wheel cars. This means special things to people after they grow up. I'm sorry you had a dismal childhood and had to go through that but all childhoods are not perfect. You survived and are all grown up now. Don't let that determine who you are now. You are so famous to say you are independant so fill your home with love and let your past go.

I can't wait until they do a reality show on "Cat ...

2009-08-28T12:39:51.910-04:00

I can't wait until they do a reality show on "Cat Ladies".

Ignore those who give you such good advice on how you'll "change" after the baby comes.

The only thing I'll say is this:

You're gonna be a great Mom to a very lucky child.